The Other Woman

So sometimes as collegiates we think that the relationships we are in are for now not always. Moral compasses do not always point north and sometimes lines are blurred, sometime due to alcohol. When things like this happen there is the potential to become the other man or the other woman. This is a dangerous relationship that I would highly suggest, with all my "professional experience", to stay away from. This relationship will not only complicate your life but two other people’s as well. The perpetrator, or cheating party, is hard to spot in crowd. If you are out in a social situation they might be just another social butterfly looking to expand their ever-growing social circle. They might be the quiet challenge in the corner that you can’t keep your eye off of. They also might be the person to come straight up to you and initiate flirtation and this strange little relationship. They also might be openly in relationship and yet again as competitive member of the dating world you think, “challenge accepted” and get ready to fight for him like it’s the hunger games. However in this situation the odds are probably not in your favor.

            While this may seem like an easy way out of emotional contact and a means of keeping things purely physical and fun, life is never that simple. Emotions do get involved, maybe not yours but emotions nonetheless. Also being the other woman means knowing and accepting that you are not the main romantic interest of your partner. While they do find you fun and exciting there is a reason you are the OTHER woman (or man) instead of being just THE woman. These same reasons will prevent you from being together in the future. This relationship will never work out because it was built on secrecy and if he (or she) has the ability to do this to someone with you, they have the potential to do it to you with someone else. You don’t want to have to worry about where exactly it was they said they were going or who that random number was that popped up on their phone.

            The cheater is someone who is bored and easily distracted so get your priorities straight and find a better partner. Being with someone that puts you in the position of being “the other” is not worth it. Pick yourself up and get yourself out if you are engaging in this relationship. Everyone has the potential to find the person that will make them a priority and not just a sidepiece. Being the other woman is not an acceptable way to stay away from heartbreak and in fact when this one ends in you getting burned, it will hurt just as much if not more because the person you have feelings for loves someone else more than you. So do yourself a favor and check out their Facebook page or ask around before getting in too deep, it will only save you time and piece of your heart.