The Fraternity Gentleman and the Athletic Gentleman

In this blog entry I am going to introduce everyone to the well-known, campus involved man. The two specific types of men I will be describing are the student athlete and the fraternity brother. I have had personal experience with both and hope that my failed attempts at a lasting romance can make you laugh, inspire, and scare you just the right amount.

I am going to kick it off with a song I discovered sometime ago that really help to put my experience with fraternity men (and athletes) into perspective: 

Firstly let us discuss the upstanding fraternity gentleman. First things first, he can be spotted from across the quad on any given day wearing vineyard vines, sweet shades, and boat shoes. He either rocks khaki’s or chubbies, there are no dress down days for this young man. He is involved around campus with extra curriculars, philanthropic activities, and some quality bro time. You might meet this young man in a class, at a social gathering, or a local bar. He is never alone, the fraternity man travels with his brothers however he is still approachable and is easily drawn away from the group. Some are the type of man you cannot wait to bring home to mom while others are just for letting the good times roll. This man can be prince charming. He takes you out to dinner and if you’re lucky you might just get invited to formal, his mama raised him right. But, be cautious because things can go downhill fast. He might just stand you up at a grab-a-date causing you lifelong embarrassment which results in ducking for cover whenever he is spotted in a social setting. Sometimes defining the relationship with a fraternity man can be as confusing as a T-Swift album and result in a phase of wearing a lot of red lipstick and black clothing.

            Similar to the Greek man, a student athlete can be spotted a mile away, he is huddled in a pack of boys wearing the exact same thing as him, warm-up gear. At night he can be found out surround by girls and his friends with a beer in hand. These men are hard to tie down because they have an absurd amount of options. Their free time is also very limited so visiting time with this guy usually happens no earlier than 11 pm. It is not rare to spot him out every night of the week with a different girl on his arm or just hanging with the boys. All this being said there is always the rare chance that he will commit. Despite the impossibly busy schedule with a full course load, practice times, and game days. Once locked up this relationship becomes one of celebrity, everyone knows about it. People watch to see what will happen next and despite the open title other girls will still make a move when he is vulnerable. It takes an incredibly secure woman to get one of these guys!

            Being tangled with the involved man can be difficult for the collegiate woman. She has a life of her own yet is trying to accommodate the life of her man as well. With grueling schedules “us” time can be difficult yet it is a must for the budding college relationship. Along with the glamour of the involved man, the dances, dates, and reserved seating at crowded bars, comes a deep appreciation of the other person. Between school and play making time can be difficult so when developing a relationship with someone who is active in the community it is important to be flexible yet firm about making time for one another.

That’s my advice on the frat boy and the athlete, all my knowledge has been drawn from personal experience so please don’t mind the generalizations!