In this blog entry I am going to introduce everyone to the
well-known, campus involved man. The two specific types of men I will be
describing are the student athlete and the fraternity brother. I have had
personal experience with both and hope that my failed attempts at a lasting
romance can make you laugh, inspire, and scare you just the right amount.
I am going to kick it off with a song I discovered sometime ago that really help to put my experience with fraternity men (and athletes) into perspective:
Firstly let us discuss the
upstanding fraternity gentleman. First things first, he can be spotted from
across the quad on any given day wearing vineyard vines, sweet shades, and boat
shoes. He either rocks khaki’s or chubbies, there are no dress down days for
this young man. He is involved around campus with extra curriculars,
philanthropic activities, and some quality bro time. You might meet this young
man in a class, at a social gathering, or a local bar. He is never alone, the
fraternity man travels with his brothers however he is still approachable and is easily
drawn away from the group. Some are the type of man you cannot wait to bring
home to mom while others are just for letting the good times roll. This man can be
prince charming. He takes you out to dinner and if you’re lucky you might just get
invited to formal, his mama raised him right. But, be cautious because things can go downhill fast. He
might just stand you up at a grab-a-date causing you lifelong embarrassment
which results in ducking for cover whenever he is spotted in a social setting.
Sometimes defining the relationship with a fraternity man can be as confusing
as a T-Swift album and result in a phase of wearing a lot of red lipstick and
black clothing.
Similar
to the Greek man, a student athlete can be spotted a mile away, he is huddled in
a pack of boys wearing the exact same thing as him, warm-up gear. At night he
can be found out surround by girls and his friends with a beer in hand. These
men are hard to tie down because they have an absurd amount of options. Their
free time is also very limited so visiting time with this guy usually happens
no earlier than 11 pm. It is not rare to spot him out every night of the week
with a different girl on his arm or just hanging with the boys. All this being
said there is always the rare chance that he will commit. Despite the
impossibly busy schedule with a full course load, practice times, and game
days. Once locked up this relationship becomes one of celebrity, everyone knows
about it. People watch to see what will happen next and despite the open title
other girls will still make a move when he is vulnerable. It takes an
incredibly secure woman to get one of these guys!
Being
tangled with the involved man can be difficult for the collegiate woman. She
has a life of her own yet is trying to accommodate the life of her man as well.
With grueling schedules “us” time can be difficult yet it is a must for the
budding college relationship. Along with the glamour of the involved man, the
dances, dates, and reserved seating at crowded bars, comes a deep appreciation of the other
person. Between school and play making time can be difficult so when developing
a relationship with someone who is active in the community it is important to
be flexible yet firm about making time for one another.
That’s my advice on the frat boy and the athlete, all my
knowledge has been drawn from personal experience so please don’t mind the
generalizations!
